Here’s the thing—expectations, when unmanaged, don’t just strain your relationship. They also rob you of peace. Whenever I let my unmet expectations dictate my emotions, I felt frustrated, unappreciated, and disconnected. The tension wasn’t always about what my partner did or didn’t do; it was about how I expected him to behave. How Expectations Shape Our Experiences Expectations are...[ read more ]
Trauma isn’t something we can see, but it leaves a deep impact—on how we think, feel, and move through life. It’s more than just “bad memories.” Trauma rewires the brain and can change how we see ourselves and the world. But the good news? Healing is possible. Trauma-informed care is about understanding that trauma changes the way people experience the...[ read more ]
With Thanksgiving right around the corner, many of us look forward to gatherings, connection, and celebration. However, for those who tend to prioritize others' needs over their own—often referred to as people-pleasers—this time of year can bring a wave of anxiety and burnout. The pressure to accommodate everyone, make everything perfect, and avoid conflict can lead to physical and emotional...[ read more ]
Burnout is when you feel completely worn out, both physically and emotionally. It often comes with a negative outlook toward your job and a feeling that you're not accomplishing much. Psychologist Herbert Freudenberger first used the term in the 1970s to describe people's stress and high expectations in “helping” professions like doctors and nurses. However, we now know that burnout...[ read more ]
One evening, Melody decided it was time to talk to her husband, Mark, about their growing relationship problems. As she gently brought up her concerns, Mark’s demeanor shifted dramatically. His face flushed with anger, and he began yelling, placing all the blame on Melody for their issues. The more Melody tried to explain, the more defensive and enraged Mark became....[ read more ]
Cracking the Code of Attachment Styles: Navigating Anxiety and Healing in Relationships In the complexity of human relationships, attachment styles serve as a guiding framework that helps us decipher our emotional tendencies and behavioral patterns. These four attachment styles show how we give and receive love and provide profound insights into our actions within adult romantic relationships. These styles take...[ read more ]
Have you ever found yourself feeling disconnected from your emotions? Do you struggle to identify your feelings, or perhaps feel like you're going through the motions of life without really experiencing anything deeply? If so, you may be experiencing emotional numbing, which can be a typical response to trauma. Emotional numbing is a common coping mechanism that occurs when we...[ read more ]
Last Thursday morning, I was sitting in my office when a new client walked in. The first thing I noticed was the look of worry etched on their face. As they sat down, they let out a deep sigh and began to explain what had brought them in. They were feeling overwhelmed and anxious about the state of our country....[ read more ]
Anxiety is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease. All children feel anxiety sometimes. It’s a healthy emotion and a natural part of growing up. There are many occasions in life when children feel anxious. They may feel anxious before a big change (going to a new school, before an exam, etc.), or when they have had a distressing or...[ read more ]
What is ADHD? Do you often face difficulty in concentrating on something, remembering information, following directions, organizing tasks, or finishing work on time? It's normal to forget things from time to time or have trouble getting yourself organized. Most of us misplace our keys or phones once in a while and even have trouble focusing on a long-winded lecture. But...[ read more ]
